It is always distressing to lose someone close to you. The ministers at All Saints’ can help and support you through what is bound to be a difficult time. Everyone’s experience of bereavement is different but they will have some idea of what you are going through; they have all lost close friends or relatives themselves.
If you would like our support please telephone our Rector, the Revd Susan Iskander (01245 356720) or in her absence any other member of our Ministry Team – you will find their contact details on the Meet the Team page. You can also email our Bereavement Team, firstname.lastname@example.org.
You may find that you are unable to attend the funeral of someone dear to you, perhaps because it is too far away or because you are unwell yourself. If you would like someone from All Saints’ to talk to you and offer to pray with you at the time of the funeral, again please telephone our Rector or another member of the Ministry Team.
Arranging a funeral
As Christians we do not see death as the end. Those who have left this world have departed to continue their lives elsewhere. Jesus Himself told His followers: “There are many rooms in my Father’s house, and I am going to prepare a place for you.” A funeral is our opportunity to recall the life of the one who has departed, to remember God’s promises to those who love Him, to commend the departed to God and to commit him or her to God’s love and care.
The first step in arranging a funeral is normally for the next of kin to contact a funeral director. The funeral director will meet you to discuss your wishes and then, if the person who has died lived in our parish or was connected with All Saints’, they will contact us. (Let them know if you have already spoken to one of our ministers.)
The funeral can take place at All Saints’, followed immediately by a burial or cremation elsewhere, or it can take place entirely at a crematorium. You can if you wish arrange to have a private funeral at a crematorium and a memorial or thanksgiving service at All Saints’ later.
Once a date and time has been agreed, the minister who is to conduct the service will arrange to meet you to plan the service with you.
Our memories of those we have lost can be precious to us. Even when you are not consciously thinking of them, the sight of a particular tree in blossom, a favourite piece of music, a familiar scent can all bring memories flooding back. Our care and support for you does not end with the funeral.
A month or so after the funeral we will get in touch with you to see how you are and whether there is any further help we can give. We will also invite you to our next Memorial Service, when we remember by name all those who have died in the previous year, and pray for you at the time of the first anniversary.
And, of course, you will always be assured of a warm welcome at any service at All Saints’.